if you are feeling left out b/c you aren't mexican

the weather is beautiful right now in shanghai, but spring has been known to awaken my allergies, and sneezing in china when you are an american does not go over well with the locals these days. i'm pretty sure i could send people running by just saying the word sneeze. maybe even whispering.

at the doctor's office yesterday, chad and i were greeted w/ a table full of materials on 'the flu', in addition to a costco size bottle of purell. we checked in; and while standing in front of the receptionist desk, i asked chad if there had been any cases of the swine flu in china yet. he said he wasn't sure, and we both looked to the receptionist for an answer.

big mistake.

huge.

her eyes grew large, and she quickly left to converse w/ other nurses in the room just beyond. in a moment, a woman in gloves and a mask came out and wanted to take our temperatures. 'um, i didn't say i HAD the flu, i was just...'

thermometer in ear ... waiver in hand.

'no, i have not been close touch or expose around pigs'

'no, i have not had feverish'

'no, i have not been around anyone with a fever' (mostly)

have i been to swine central countries within the last week?

i don't even want to know what happens if i say yes to that.

beautiful dead ends

it's late and i'm at work. it's one of those weeks that questions my priorities ... blurring the lines of blessing and burden. i've not written much since our trip. the words have not come to describe all that is still swirling. the re-entry to china has not been easy. the nagging inside that begs for more won't listen to logical rationale.

the past few months have been a pendulum of heights and depths...the heights now sweeter in the further exploration of the alternative.

uncertainty seems the only consistency. i'm drawn to blank pages, ink, and the afterglow of raw exploration ... of making sense from words, or not.

and then tonight, a letter from linford. linford and karin make up my all time favorite band, over the rhine. their music has laid the soundtrack for many seasons of my life. their albums are the ones that change with me, but never seem to get old. lyrics resonate deeply, and the words now are no exception ...

uncertainty. how will i embrace it? how will i use my precious time? and in the intersection of passion and purpose, might there be room for my pen?

Music and art and writing: extravagant, essential, the act of spilling something, a cup running over…

The simultaneous cry of, You must change your life, and Welcome home.

I’ve been trying to write songs again, and I’ve been hitting a maze of dead ends. I want the songs to reveal something to me, teach me something. It’s slow going. I’m not sure where I’m going. Uncertainty abounds.

But the writing works on me little by little and begins to change me. That’s why I would recommend not putting off writing if it’s something you feel called to: if you put it off, then the writing can’t do the work that it needs to do to you.

Yes, I think there’s something there. If you don’t do the work, the work can’t change you. (No one expects to change overnight.)

My sister Grace recently sent me this quote from a slim little volume called Art and Fear:

Uncertainty is the essential, inevitable and all-pervasive companion to your desire to make art. And tolerance for uncertainty is the prerequisite to succeeding.

A blessing for the writers among us: May all your dead ends be beautiful.

uganda

war DANCE

gulu is in northern uganda, and is the receiving area for many displaced by the war that continues not so far away. in our time there, i met no one that was actually from gulu. things seemed temporary, as evidenced by NGOs stationed on every block. and yet, there is a permanence about things that weighs heavily on hope. at this time of year, it is sweltering hot, dusty, and the air is stagnant. it could have been my mind running with stories of unimaginable horror, but the town felt volatile. the long term effects of trauma were apparent in those we passed by. physical scars were hard to look at. vacant eyes and detached souls seemed everywhere. it was as though we walked among shells of the people that once were. many times i felt afraid, and i'm still not exactly sure i know what i was afraid of.

i wanted to love all of africa. i wanted to soak in the culture, feel my heart bursting, and struggle to go home. instead, i struggled to sit in the reality that is unfolding in so many places across this huge continent. i felt helpless in even being able to conceive of something that could make any sort of difference. and maybe that was the hardest part ... the realization that i can't do much to help. in fact, many of us with the best intentions, have actually made things worse.

we spent our days interviewing children. we were trying to collect information about their stories to help get them sponsorship through a newly formed organization in seattle. each told a story that one would scarcely encounter in the western world. all had lost at least one, if not both, parents at the hands of the LRA or AIDS. some had been child soldiers. some were the heads of their tiny families. all bore responsibility that should be reserved for adults. i wondered how humanness survives in the midst of such atrocity. i couldn't imagine living a story like theirs, and not being unique.

their tears broke me, and their sweet smiles lifted me. at night, they showed us their traditional tribal dances around the campfire. their eyes were alive ... their laughter carefree ... and for a moment, we were given a glimpse of the people before us ... the acholi ... and with it, the vast realization of all that has been lost in the killing fields.

blessed to be a witness

leaving luwero felt a little like the let down at the end of summer camp. we had grown accustomed to our dirty feet, and had gotten used to the not always tiny friends that graced our presence ... lizards, weird bugs, and a little albino frog that would not leave our toilet. after exhausting him in our attempts to throw him out (and by 'our' i mean jason), we named him herbie hancock, and in the end, it was i that was sad to leave him. in very little time, our relationships with the staff had grown. their dreams were beginning to shape ours. we felt so humbled to be the recipients of their hospitality.

chad met maggie at a conference in seattle a few years ago. her personal story and the work she is now doing in africa inspired both of us, and we've stayed connected with the hope of visiting someday.

a little background on uganda:

- of the 30 least developed nations, 25 are in africa

- uganda's birthrate is the 2nd highest in the world

- 50% of the population is under the age of 15, with more than 2 million orphans

- the life expectancy is 42 years old

- 390,000 job seekers will fight for the 8,000 jobs available each year

with these statistics, it is easy to understand why it would be hard to dream. most children in this area have lost at least one of their parents. mothers try for multiple children, knowing that, if they're fortunate, only 50% will survive. hope tends to be near sighted, and promises have looming expiration dates. creativity and inspiration are boxed with the pressure of the realistic now. time is an uncommon luxury ... and no one believes that they will grow old.

maggie grew up as a slave in child pornography and prostitution. her parents were her captors. she knows what it is to be stripped of hope for anything different. she also knows what it is to defy the odds. confronting some of her greatest fears, and committed to finishing her own story with a beautiful ending, maggie founded AHI (african hospitality institute). AHI transforms the lives of at-risk youth through training them in hospitality. with the ever growing tourism industry in uganda, the demand for trustworthy and trained workers is growing, but these individuals are hard to find. until now.

we knew the staff at AHI was good. we felt continuously spoiled, but we wondered how much of our satisfaction came from the fact that we loved them as people. i.e., maybe it wasn't the fact that whatever i thought about was in my hand at the dinner table before i asked. maybe it was that it was delivered by sylvia and the radiantly sarcastic smile that said she could read my mind.

later, as we would travel around africa, we found ourselves commenting at nearly every restaurant or hotel, that every AHI staff member could not only excel in working in said organization, but running it.

we missed it. we missed them.

during the days, we played and fell in love with the little faces of the children in the villages surrounding AHI. even in our interactions with families who had very little, i was aware of the hope that permeated ... the light that shone. i ached when we left. not because i was abandoning them in their condition, but because i wanted more of what they had given me. just in witnessing ... i am ever blessed.

the gift of color

luwero is at the very center of uganda. the luwero triangle is the place that obote's army lined the streets with innocent civilians and executed them in an attempt to retain his position of power. the war with AIDS took the next generation. here, grandparents whose eyes can hold no more, struggle to raise children who have never known peace.

i spent my birthday in the villages here surrounded with tiny dirt covered feet ... little hands curious about my white skin ... shining eyes yellowed with disease ... swollen bellies that hint at the challenges that mount against basic need.

i expected to feel the weight of the pain that permeates this people. instead, i found laughter ... big toothy grins, playful squeals, abundant hugs ... inexplicable jOy.

at church, i found people separated by fierce tribal lines coming together to pray. i watched a community care for its children so well, that i could never match child to mother.

they say, "you are welcome," as they clasp our hands in theirs, and i'm intoxicated by their warmth.

there is heat, there is struggle ... there is depth, and there is wisdom. there is joy, and unmatched richness. there is strength, and there is hOpe.

it's hard to put words around such paradox, except to say, we are falling in love with uganda. and we notice we are not so much shooting photos in black and white.

not a heck of da lat

in da lat.

it was fun to get a closer view in a less touristy area of vietnam. the surrounding land is beautiful, and the smell of fresh coffee beans fills the air. that is unless, you are in the market. there, the smell of animals fills the air, and i tried really hard to not look at them or what was about to happen to them. it was enough to make a girl a vegetarian.

we had the best pho ever on the street. we questioned the cleanliness of the bowls, chopsticks, and cups we were using, but soon forgot when we tasted what they were holding. a couple of locals sat w/ us, and had some tea.

when they left, the tea cups were put right back in the basket where they started ... ready for the next customer.

i had to deal w/ 2 things in that moment:

1. i had to decide if what i had just done was the equivalent of a. making out w/ the intoxicated, few-toothed man that was just at our table, b. chewing abc gum i found in a public place, c. licking a toilet seat, or d. all of the above.

2. i had to accept the realization that the man that i do kiss on a regular basis, really could care less, and continued to slurp down his pho and the rest of mine.

and then i puked in my mouth a little, and cursed myself for being such a princess.